In January I wrote a blog post entitled, “What It’s Like Being An Over-Thinker“, and since then I’ve been actively trying to work on improving my situation. It’s no secret that many of us suffer from the anxiety and stresses that are brought upon by over-thinking, not to mention the sleepless nights as well. However, I’m writing this post to tell you that you have a choice, we all have a choice- a choice to take matters into our own hands, a choice to live happily in the now, a choice to overcome this mental “disease” that debilitates us with each given day. Within this post, I want to share with you my journey– as short-term as it’s been– that has gotten me to the point where I can breathe a sigh of relief and confidently say,“I’m getting the hang of this”.
As with growth in general, letting go of the past, the what-if’s and what will’s will take time. It takes consistent effort and determination to become free of the weight that we bear upon our shoulders as over-thinkers. It takes a true love and respect for ourselves that we may think we have but not entirely. However, I must say it’s not easy, and to experience a reality shift, we have to focus holistically on our self-development. It’s a journey that we have to be willing to take, a journey that we must see beneficial and necessary to take, to learn to accept and to move along with no strings attached.
With that being said, here are a few things that I’ve had to learn and exercise since then:
- I had to acknowledge the fact that not everything will play out the way I want it to and learn to accept that it’s just the reality of life. Holding on to negative things will not only dampen my mood but my energy will translate to those around me.
- I had to want it so badly, to the point where my moving forward successfully in my life depended on it. If there’s one thing that I’ve learnt within my nineteen years of existence, it’s that to experience growth, you have to desire it to the depths of your core and act on it right away.
- I had to learn to love myself more than ever before. I had to make decisions that were beneficial for me and my personal growth, as hard as they were.
- And with those necessary decisions, I had to learn to emotionally detach myself from things that would constantly plague me. These are things that had kept me up at nights thinking, things that would make me zone out and become absent from the present for long periods of time.
- I became active both mentally and physically. I reached within the realms of my creativity and started new hobbies, I began to exercise mindfulness through meditation both during the day and at nights to help me sleep, and I also made the effort to stick to a strict workout routine.
- I began treating myself with pure love. I allowed only positive thoughts to permeate my mind, ensured the upkeep of my appearance and my favorite of all, I started eating super clean and healthy “feel-good” foods!
- I also began connecting with God more than ever before through prayer.
- Last but not least, I began writing weekly journal entries. These entries helped me to make sense of my thoughts and track my progress as the weeks went by.
This wasn’t an overnight jackpot, as it’s still a work in progress. It was mornings of fighting myself to get out of bed and nights of fighting myself to shut out my thoughts and sleep. I had to slowly build that self-motivation to tackle my days how I once did, but thankfully, things have changed. I’ve been seeing nothing but improvements and I can give a lot of that credit to meditation and journaling. If I can do it, you can definitely do it too.
If you’re having a tough time right now, feel completely free to send me an email and I’ll surely chat with you. We all need someone who will listen every now and again. I’m here for that.